This is something I’ve often wondered about and at times fumed about. Is sex just sex? I mean… when a man says I want you is he just expressing sexual desire, that could be random in nature, or is he expressing his love via sex?
I was told once that to say I want you (sexually) was the same as saying I like the whole package. How does one know? For women, I think, emotional connection rarely translates to the sexual act. Yes, we want sex and it’s not a given that we can have good, meaningful sex without some kind of connection… but I don’t think women express interest in a man by talking about, or focusing exclusively on sexual desire.
Am I making sense here? I once had a friend with benefits situation. We agreed that we didn’t see each other as partners, in the romantic sense, but having already had sex we found ourselves continuing that kind of ‘relationship’ for a brief period of time. The sex was great and we were well matched in terms of desire and adventurousness. But, it was not an expression of an emotional commitment to each other. And, to me that is very different from the coupling of two people who are nurturing or expressing their affection/love/commitment to each other.
Talk to me……