Want a Stiff D*#k? Bend Over, Please.

Finally, a Senator with balls.  This week, Virginia Senator Janet Howell tried to bring some equality to the battle for a woman’s domain over her own body.   The conservative representatives of the people of Virginia proposed a bill which would mandate an ultrasound for every woman seeking an abortion. Howell added an amendment to the bill–men seeking prescriptions for erectile dysfunction medicine would be required to get a rectal exam and a cardiac stress test!

As Howell and the rest of us might have expected, her amendment didn’t pass. Now a woman who chooses an abortion must be forced to pay for and receive an ultrasound before getting an abortion. Men have no restrictions on what they can do with their body–there are no laws that legislate men in the fashion that women are subjected to laws.  Well, there may be a few laws prohibiting sex with livestock out there somewhere, but you get my point. It’s antiquated.

Oh well.  She got major media coverage on Huffington Post and we got to revel even momentarily in the thought of men being subjected to a rectal exam in order to get their groove on!  They get ED meds covered by most prescription plans and we still struggle for the basic rights to get birth control, breast exams and the right to determine control over our own bodies. In a day where the battle to provide for women’s health got a little tougher, thanks to politics and the Susan Komen Foundation, this story was a pleasant diversion. I can just see all those staunch men cringing and puckering as she proposed her amendment.

I’m not advocating abortion, I believe it’s a choice a woman and her partner should have the right to decide, in private. I’m pro-choice, but I’m also pro-life. Having never been in a position where I needed to contemplate abortion, I don’t believe it’s my place to pass judgment, much less force additional hurdles in an already emotionally charged time in a woman’s life.

Women are seeing their rights being eroded bit by bit by the conservative Christian movement in this country. It’s scary.  I want politicians to leave my body alone and to keep their religious beliefs in church and the home where it belongs and out of the public forum.

Put Your Left Foot and Your Right Foot There

I had to go to the doctor yesterday… girlie stuff.  She asked me some very personal questions:

“Are you sexually active?”

I say yes and she says Man?

It takes me a minute or two to realize she’s asking about my sexual preference. She asked a bevy of other questions, as I sat there w/ a full bladder, their intent-my torture. The most fascinating question of all was whether I would be willing, if necessary, to undergo any treatment that might mean an end to my sexual activity. I didn’t even miss a beat on that one. No fucking way!  I got a late start on expressing my sexuality and I have much catching up to do.

Her last question was that I share something  about me that had nothing to do with medical issues.  I guess they try to ease the tension at this point?  So, I shared with her that I am an affiliate for Babeland sex toys.  I think she was fascinated!  I hope my openness gave her a more informed view of older women.  That’s my goal here in life today. To challenge the public perception of older women and have fun doing so.

I want people to embrace sexuality. Whether it’s on a personal level or by simply proclaiming the natural order of things. Our society has such a distorted take on sex-it’s often mixed with violence and over-sensationalized. And at the same time denied on a more realistic day to day level (for example-they want to ban public breast feeding while using almost bare-breasted women in ads).

We can’t effectively fight for our sexual rights or the right to control our own body if we can’t even acknowledge our sexuality.  Right now, the political trend is to take away our rights, AGAIN.  We can counter that by educating others and being assertive about who we are as women- across the whole spectrum.  At least, I hope we can.

And, here at Deliriously Divine and out in public where suitable, I’m doing my part to counter the myths and to bring a more open view of sexuality from a female perspective. So, bring it on ladies and join in. When was the last time you expressed your sexuality?