The Wacky, Wonderful World of Blogging

The world of blogging is fascinating…. where else would you find people who let you glimpse into their sex life, the decline of their marriage, depression, family life, the unfolding of a loved one’s death, teen angst,  and so forth.

I’ve been blogging now for two and a half years and have ‘met’ a number of wonderful people from down the road to opposite ends of the world: Australia, England, Singapore, Spain, Canada, the Caribbean and all points in between. To date, I have not had a face to face meeting with any of my fellow bloggers but there are many times when I wish that we could come together.

I’ve offered advice to a 16 year old young woman from Singapore and read the juiciest tidbits from a nurse in Australia, workplace humor and mock venom from Canadians and West Coasters… and laughed and cried with my Brit friends.

I love the world of blogging and I love the offline interaction that pops up here and there. Right now I’m intrigued by someone who pushes all of my buttons and a few of my triggers. Worlds away. What fun.

Is there a virtual meeting place where we can reach out and touch, feel the essence of another? Something sci-fi like…or reminiscent of The Matrix.  In some ways we experience a one-dimensional world as bloggers…yet the offline interaction as well as the commenting gives us more of a fullness for the person on the other side of the computer. We may never see this person or know if the nurse is really a nurse, or even if Divine is a woman (and if you’re in doubt, tell me… I’ll send a photo), and yet we often see more of their lives than the people around them are allowed to see. It’s an amazing world, this world of the personal blog.

I’m a tactile person, so this realm is ultimately unsatisfying for me. I want to see you in person, I want to touch your white beard or poke at your little dog’s tail…. see your camera, feel the heat, get inside your brain,, touch your bear fur and hear your school stories up close and personal. This world fulfills much of my desire to share and explore my horizons in a way I could never do here in my own community…yet it leaves me yearning for more– often.

Tell us about your blogging experiences.

 

Footnote: One of my old favs, no longer active, was a blog called Sick Days, life in a world of corporate dogs. Brilliant stuff, if you’re reading this my dear AlanT.

Just Thinking Out Loud About Sex, Feel Free to Join In

This is something I’ve often wondered about and at times fumed about. Is sex just sex? I mean… when a man says I want you is he just expressing sexual desire, that could be random in nature, or is he expressing his love via sex?

I was told once that to say I want you (sexually) was the same as saying I like the whole package. How does one know? For women, I think,  emotional connection rarely translates to the sexual act.  Yes, we want sex and it’s not a given that we can have good, meaningful sex without some kind of connection… but I don’t think women express interest in a man by talking about, or focusing exclusively on sexual desire.

Am I making sense here? I once had a friend with benefits situation. We agreed that we didn’t see each other as partners, in the romantic sense, but having already had sex we found ourselves continuing that kind of ‘relationship’ for a brief period of time.  The sex was great and we were well matched in terms of desire and adventurousness.  But, it was not an expression of an emotional commitment to each other.  And, to me that is very different from the coupling of two people who are nurturing or expressing their affection/love/commitment to each other.

Talk to me……