The month of May was clearly a month of spring fever induced internet searching here at Deliriously Divine. My top three search engine terms:
1. Boob shapes with 51 searches sending people to DD looking for boobs (that includes you, John Hayden)
2. Saggy Boobs with 25 searches
3. Old Lady Sex with 23 . I want to proclaim loud and clear that Ms. Divine here is not a) an old lady and b) having sex with me is not the same as doing it with dried up, old relic!!!
Of course, we’re not only about sex here. I write on other topics and people are finding me with other search terms. The most popular non-sexual (I hope) term? GOAT.
Some people say love makes the world go around. Or maybe it’s sex that makes the world go around? Hard to say.
For no particular reason, let’s segue.
Well, it’s about sex. I had dinner with a dear friend, a friend with whom I was enjoying all the benefits (until the new prospect). He cooked for me–who doesn’t adore a man who does the NYT crossword puzzle (in pen) and cooks softshell crabs? Over dinner, and working our way through a bottle of wine, we started talking about sex and our former lovers. Being friends, and having a certain level of intimacy, the conversation was easy since there are no worries about offending or scaring off or ruining a potential good thing. As, an aside, I’ve never had a relationship quite like this…it’s wonderful and easy and my recent announcement that the benefits part was over or at the very least on temporary hold, was graciously received ( I told him well before he planned the evening). So, we let it rip and starting sharing our list…. Wow! It was fun. He clearly eclipses me in the sex partner category. We tallied our whole life numbers as well as our post marriage(s) numbers. I’ve been married once, he’s gone around twice. I didn’t think to add in men with whom I’d been more than once but at different points in my life… I think they only count as one? Or maybe not? I have 2 of those.
The conversation touched on our need for connection and how that is often translated into sex. And, we talked about goal driven behavior and it’s place or intrusion on sex lives. It was the most open conversation about sex I’ve ever had with a man, in that we talked about the underlying emotions. Fabulous.
Yesterday I discovered Dear Prudence, on Slate.com, and coincidentally I found this video, check it out! Dear Prudie, My Boyfriend Has Slept with Everyone.
Needless to say I shared it with my friend.
Today, I’m going to take a few minutes to jot down the actual list of men… Just ’cause. But I’m not sharing.