A Life Unwritten Begs to Be Let Out into The Sunlight

I’ve been absent from the blog world of late… with nothing appropriately sexy to share with you, my dear readers, I just retreated. I’ve got nothing for you now, either but…..

I’m writing on Christmas afternoon… my Christmas starts on Monday afternoon, so this is just another Sunday for me. Sorta. I’ve been listening to David Sedaris today–the Santaland Diaries…what a hoot. I’m wondering if there is a way for me to channel a little of his wicked humor in my writing? I have enough stories to share some wickedly funny episodes and still maintain a straight non-fiction approach, which is kinda sad really.

I have a male friend, one I dated briefly in late spring. We’re talking again and he momentarily suggested we write together. I hesitated, then said yes and then,  he changed his mind! It was probably the best thing that’s happened to my personal writing in over a year. I’m all jazzed up about this now.

Why?

1. I have my own unique story to tell
2. Collaborative story telling would dilute my story… and as I contemplated that I realized that I do have a strong story.
3. It took our conversations and my thinking about a possible partnership to help me realize that I was giving away and negating my own powerful desire to write–each and every time I made an excuse or procrastinated a little more.
4. As we talked about my story and how best to tell it, I got some insight both from him and from my own thoughts. Previously, I stopped in an overwhelmed state from trying to figure out how to structure the story and what  format to use. That process, in effect, paralyzed me.

I’ve come to realize that I need structure. Outlines, plans, lists, and an overall focus for me to stay on task. The plan is to begin as soon as holidays are over and the grandkids are gone. I will treat the book as a part-time job. And, I will rely on my friend to listen, offer suggestions and support and a bit of editorial advice, mixed in with a little unsolicited editorializing (he can’t help himself and I can tell him to piss off as needed) from time to time.

I am excited and scared. I’m giving myself the month of January to get really focused and write. By the end of the month I hope to have given shape to what I’ve previously written with a clear idea of what type of book. I should have enough material to consider approaching an agent by that point… hopefully!

So, I’ll be blogging and maybe I’ll offer up tidbits here and there. I may need additional research material….so if you have some single friends, pass along my link!

 

Footnote: I’ve been writing stories about my online dating episodes on and off for over 5 years now. Last year I semi-started over and have over 30,000 words I think. I just couldn’t figure out how to proceed and get past my misgivings about going public with my sex life and zany episodes in and out of the bedroom.

Where Miss Bennet Tells Mr. Darcy How She Feels About Giving Head

Imagine if you would that Miss Bennet has decided she likes Mr. Darcy and wants to let him know that.  How is she going to convey her feelings about blow jobs? What would she say?  Does she like to give head or not?

I’ve never been directly asked that question and in the realm of dating negotiations, I’ve only had to deal with the question, “Do you like spankings?”  It was years ago and his first question in the very first email. It creeped me out and I wrote, rather prudishly I’m sure, to say no and no thanks.  Today I might reply with a question about intensity and what he had in mind!

So, help us create the scenario here… you can practice your best writing.  Miss Bennet, Mr. Darcy are having a quiet, yet intense conversation….

 

 

Sex and My Mother’s Condo

I am a freelance writer, with a variety of client projects that I might be handling at any given time. This particular client is one I’ve worked with for a number of months on a wide variety of projects. One of her clients is the owner of a lingerie website and blog. Yesterday I spent the afternoon writing up new descriptions for categories of lingerie.  The task wasexs to come up with a 120 word description of teddies, or leather lingerie and more. The g-string section was particularly challenging… really, how much can one say?  There was also the category on open crotch/cupless bras.

So, I was working at my mother’s place since my heating oil ran out on Saturday and my house was freezing. In one room my mother was listening to opera and in the den I’m browsing through 492 pictures of corsets, bustiers and plenty of bare bottoms. And, getting a little hot in the process. Some of that stuff was incredibly sexy and as I was trying to come up with delicately sensuous descriptions I envisioned myself in some of the garments. Mom was blissfully unaware.

My challenge was to maintain the professional air one needs to do the job professionally. I couldn’t stop and distract myself, nor could I totally rid myself of all feelings… I needed that to get the job done.

I finished. The job was completed and I’ve been paid. I’ve also picked out a few little gems I would like to have. I’m going to be bold and ask the client about getting a discount. After all, what could be better than a personal endorsement?

What am I lusting for? A black boned corset with purple trim and a g-string made with a string of ‘pearls’ in place of that essential bit of fabric. And, the man to wear it for.